How to walk away from being a side chick can be one of the toughest decision you will ever make in your life as a side chick to any man. Yet, the thought of walking away would be an option in your mind at a point in your life; because you deserve more.
When it comes to issues relating to love, relationships, and marriage, I always like to face the facts and make decisions from a rational point of view. Sometimes, to walk away from being a side chick is the best decision you will make in your life.
Come to think of it, you deserve to be the main chick, and you deserve a man of your own – not one you need to share with some other woman – as a side chick. There are many reasons why being a side chick hurts, and you need to consider your options and either move to become the main chick or walk out of the side chick relationship.
But it is not easy! Oh yes, I completely agree that walking away from being a side chick is nothing as easy as it sounds.
Indeed, it is complicated and they are many things that will hold you back from making this decision – which may well be a decision that will save your life.
In this article, I have highlighted a few tips on how to walk away from being a side chick and take control of your life again.
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17 Ways to Walk Away from Being a Side Chick
1. Make the Decision
Making a decision is perhaps the most important step to make when you want to walk away from being a side chick.
No one else can make the decision for you and no one can talk you into it. You will have to carefully retrospect on the situation and make the decision to walk away.
Until you are true to yourself and make this decision, nothing else will work and you will see yourself trying to break free but unable.
2. Be Determined to Stand By Your Decision
One thing is making a decision, another is standing true to the decision you have just made. While I may agree that making the decision is the most difficult and important step to take, it is not the only one.
You will need to stay strong and determined against the forces that will try to make you change the decision you made. At this point, you should always remember the reason why you made the decision in the first place.
3. Accept the Situation within Yourself
In order to be able to walk away from being a side chick, you need to accept the fact that you are a side chick, you believe strongly that you deserve more and you are determined to have more.
This is like having a confession within yourself where you look at yourself in the mirror and stop lying to yourself.
You will need to carry out an analysis of the situation within you and accept within yourself that you are tired of being a side chick – and you deserve better.
4. Look at Yourself in the Mirror
This has been proven to be a therapeutic process that aids internal healing. Experts claim that when you look at yourself in a mirror, it is best to be alone and naked.
It is often best to carry out the procedure before a full sized mirror to enable you to see yourself from head to toes. The aim of this exercise is to appreciate yourself.
Looking at yourself in the mirror will help you realize that you deserve more than being someone’s side chick.
5. Talk to Yourself
The one person in life you cannot lie to is yourself. Behind the gains of your side chick relationship, what are your pains? How do you see yourself? How does he really see you – other than as a sex tool.
Cry if you want to, do not hold anything back. This is an important phase of your life and you need to tell yourself the truth that there is no future in being a side chick.
Ask yourself the possible ways in which this will end and give the answer – it can never end in a happy way.
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6. Embrace the Pains
No one said this was going to be a walk in the park – no, it isn’t. If you thought it was, then you thought wrong. You will have to be ready to embrace the pains and challenges that go with walking away from being a side chick.
There is a big possibility that you will be hurt by this decision and like I always say, you will lose his support – financial, protective, or otherwise.
Ultimately, you have to understand that when you walk away from being a side chick, you are walking away from a system that has supported you and you depended on for survival.
7. Do Not Allow Sex Be a Factor
When considering factors and reasons why you should walk away from being a side chick – or should not, do not consider sex. No matter how good – or bad your sex life with him was, do not consider it as a basis for your decision.
If you had a vibrant and enjoyable sex life, do not allow it be a reason why you are having second thoughts about walking away from being a side chick. You will find other partners who will satisfy you even more – and you won’t be a side chick.
Also, low sexual satisfaction should not be the reason why you want to walk away from being a side chick, because if it is, you will end up being a side chick to another man – and the circle continues. Sex should never be a factor.
8. Reflect on How You Ended Here
You need to take time for reflection. How did you end up being a side chick? Did you know all along or did you just find out? When you found out, did you still remain in the relationship wanted out immediately?
You need to reflect on how you ended up here and what factors, actions – or inactions, made a man consider making you a side chick – and how did you fall?
Until you carry out these reflections and put things in place, you will struggle with your decision to stop being a side chick.
9. Build Your Self Esteem
The realization of the fact that you have been second best in a relationship and have subjected yourself to being a side chick can have a toll on your self-esteem.
You will need to work on your self-esteem if you want to succeed in your decision to walk away from being a side chick.
Again, this is one thing no one can do for you. No one but you can build your self-esteem.
10. End the Relationship for Good
To successfully walk away from being a side chick, you have to end the relationship and walk away for good.
When you are walking away, you must walk away from both the side chick relationship, and from him. You should steer clear of him and you have no business keeping him as a friend or acquaintance.
If you were a side chick, then trust me when I say he doesn’t see you as anything else, so trying to be friends with him will never work. He doesn’t see you or want you as a friend. He wants you to be his side chick, and if you do not want that anymore, you have to leave for good.
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11. Accept That You Messed Up
You are worth much more than being a side chick. Why should you be anyone’s side chick in the first place?
One thing ladies have to understand is that they are worth all the good things in life and they deserve all the good things that come their way.
If for any reason you ended up being a side chick, regardless of all you got from the relationship, you need to admit that you messed up and that you deserve better. Admitting that you messed up will help you realize that you deserve better – which you do.
12. Forgive Yourself
Many ladies make the mistake of being too hard on themselves. I understand that sometimes you feel so bad for allowing yourself to be used.
But look at the brighter picture and give yourself a break. You need to forgive yourself because it is only when you forgive yourself that you can actually move on from the current position and situation.
You will lose the very essence of your existence if you hold yourself to guilt over being a side chick to someone after the realization that you deserve more.
13. Anticipate and Become Excited
You should anticipate and become excited about the decision and change. Do not brood about this or hurt for too long about the situation.
Anticipate and look at the bigger picture. You are about to make an important decision that will make you free. This is a decision that will position you for the best – all you truly deserve.
Brace yourself for the bigger picture and anticipate a life where you are in control, respected and loved genuinely.
14. Expand Your Circle
If you want to walk away from being a side chick, you need to begin to expand your circle. When I say expand your circle, I mean increase the men in your life.
You need to meet new guys – single and available guys. In expanding your circle, you must be careful with the type of people you include in it so that you do not end where you were or in a deeper mess.
Meet single and available men and so not be scared of indulging – it could help.
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15. Stay Away From Toxic People and Advice
If you want to walk away from being a side chick without having to go back to your vomit – and endure the worst phase of your life, then stay away from toxic people and advice.
This is not the time you want to be talking to your other friends who are in side chick relationships. Really, what type of advice do you expect a side chick to give you?
Also, you should not listen to anything his friends say to you. Do not allow them talk you into going back into the side chick relationship. They will try to play on your intelligence and entice you with sweet words and gifts. Be careful because they could have a plan to ruin you.
16. Enjoy Your Post Side Chick Life
You need to enjoy your post-side chick life and embrace the new freedom you now feel. Let’s face it dear, there are going to be times when you will miss the things you were gaining from the side chick relationship.
But you should always focus on the bigger and brighter picture – now you can get a man that will truly love and respect you the way you deserve.
You are worthy of honor and you are worth more than being in a relationship where you are seen for nothing other than a sex tool. Isn’t that what being a side chick is all about?
17. Never Return to Being a Side Chick
When you walk away from being a side chick, do not return to it. In all sincerity and without bullshit, it is better not to walk away from a side chick relationship in the first place than to walk away and return to it.
When you make the mistake of returning to a side chick relationship; regardless of the reason for your decision, you will regret this action in so many ways, because you will be used and destroyed.
Side chicks relationships have ended the lives of many ladies or put in positions which they cannot recover from, you do not want to join the list.
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A side chick relationship is one of the most complicated relationships one can find herself in. You have to understand that the sole purpose why a guy engages in a side chick relationship is for sex and to satisfy his selfish interests.
It is sad that most of the time when ladies love, they love for real. But you have no business falling in love with a guy who wants you as his side chick. Understand and accept this and know peace!