Every relationship is about commitment, and sometimes you are unable to tell when you are – and should be tired of being a side chick.
Why? This could be because you are still enjoying some benefits from the relationship or naturally not accepting the idea of being single again.
Well, at a point in your life, you will have to make a decision about the role you want to play in your relationship – the main chick or a side chick? I also agree that it is not as easy as it sounds and there are times when you are stuck with trying to make things work.
Sometimes your mind wants out and you are mentally drained, but your body seems to be interested in continuing with the side chick relationship – especially when you are enjoying some level of satisfaction and pleasure.
In this article, we will highlight the points that clearly show that you are tired of being a side chick – points you probably have been ignoring for a long time.
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15 Tips That Prove You’re Tired of Being a Side Chick
1. You are Losing Respect for Him
One of the major pieces of evidence that proves that you are getting tired of being a side chick is when you discover that you are losing respect for your partner. When there is no respect in the relationship, then it is somewhat impossible for love to thrive.
You shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place if you do not have respect for your partner. If you find out you can no longer respect him due to your side chick status, save yourself the stress and walk out of the side chick relationship.
2. You are Experiencing Low Self Esteem
You know you are a side chick, but you decided to keep up with it – either because you didn’t want to lose on both ends, or because you felt you could one day move up from being a side chick to the main chick. But let us face the truth, it isn’t working as you planned, and you are slowly losing your self-esteem.
Believe it or not, if you are losing your self-esteem, then it is a sign that your entire mental and psychological system is tired of being a side chick.
3. You are Losing Respect for the Relationship
This is a big red flag. Once you notice that you are losing respect for your side chick relationship and all of a sudden it doesn’t mean anything to you anymore, it means you are tired of being a side chick.
You cannot contribute anything to a relationship you do not have respect for. Whether it is a side chick or the main chick relationship, there needs to be some level of commitment and respect. When you notice you can no longer give these, it is a sign that you are tired of being a side chick.
4. You are Checking Out Other Men
If you are checking out other men, it means you have given up on being the main chick in the relationship and are clearly tired of being a side chick. As a lady, you will only check out other men if you want them to check you out too.
You do not have to feel guilty about this, especially if you notice that you are doing this unconsciously. It is just a sign that you are tired of being a side chick – and that is not something you should be ashamed of.
5. You are Playing the ‘Single-and-Searching’ Game
If you have made up your mind to play the ‘Single-and-Searching’ game and put yourself out there for potential suitors, it means you have given up on the side chick relationship itself.
You may claim you haven’t told him it is over, and you are still seeing each other from time to time. But the truth is that this is a sign that every part of you is tired of being a side chick – and you want out! You should!
[Also Read; 12 Reasons Being a Side Chick Hurts]
6. You are Engaging in Pornography
If you are constantly turning to pornography for sexual excitement, it is a sign that you are no longer emotionally and sexually connected to your partner. Even though you are in a side chick relationship, one of the things you should enjoy is a good sex life.
If for any reason whatsoever, you are no longer enjoying your intimacy with him, then it is a sign that you are tired of being a side chick.
7. Little or No Happiness and Fulfillment
If you are not happy and fulfilled, why are you still in the relationship in the first place? So, it is not like anything has changed in the way he treats and provides for you; but somehow, you no longer find happiness and satisfaction in the relationship.
This is a huge red flag and a sign that the whole of you is tired of being a side chick. It means you need a change.
8. You are Craving for More
You suddenly want more – but not from him. There is a big difference between wanting your guy to do more for you or the relationship, and when you want it from another source. This means that you want to be with another guy.
You crave to be with someone else and would rather be with another man than him – even if the person is not providing as much as your current guy is providing. Well, dear what you crave is peace – the type you can never find from a side chick relationship.
9. You No Longer Say Sorry
In the past, you always said sorry even when you were sure you aren’t at fault, but not anymore! This is a sign that you are tired of being a side chick and you want the relationship to end as soon as possible.
If you notice that you no longer feel the need to say sorry – even when you know you are at fault, then it is a sign that you are fed up and tired of being in the relationship.
10. You are Involved in Another Affair
You are already seeing another guy. So, it is not like you really said yes to this other guy, but somehow you are not refusing his advances and you want to give him a chance to prove himself.
This is a sign that you are tired of being a side chick and everything about you wants a change. There is no need to deprive yourself of happiness and fulfillment any longer.
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11. You Do Not Enjoy His Company
All of a sudden, you notice that the only thing on your mind when you are together is when will he leave? You cannot stop checking your time, thinking how long more you will have to put up with him.
Well, if you notice this, then you should know that it is a sign that you are tired of the current position and things and you need a change.
12. You Worry About His Main Chick
Have you suddenly become worried about his main chick – or his wife? Are you feeling a sense of jealousy? Do not be ashamed of yourself if you feel this way. You are a woman and you have the right to feel that way when a man is making you second best in his life.
This feeling of worry will lead to guilt and low self-esteem. It is a sign that enough is enough and you need to move out as soon as possible.
13. You Feel Guilty About Being a Side Chick
Guilt can lead to many terrible things. The moment you start feeling guilty for being a side chick, you should identify that you are tired. When you start putting yourself in the shoes of the main chick or wife – and questioning your decision to date him in the first place, then there is a problem.
Once your spirit is no longer feeling comfortable with your role as a side chick, you should know it is a sign.
14. You Fancy Having a Family of Your Own
As a side chick, you will always remain in the shadows. He will sneak you around to hotels and guest houses. When you notice that you want to have a family in the near future, this is not the type of life you should be living.
If you suddenly begin to fancy having kids or starting a family, then you should know it is a sign that you are tired of the life of a side chick. Now, if there are no chances of being the main chick or if your guy has a family already, then you should seek an exit plan.
15. You are Looking for an Exit Plan
If for any reason you have conceived the thought of an exit plan, then it means you are tired of being a side chick. No matter the reason or circumstance that made you have this thought, it is a sign that you are tired of being a side chick.
Do you want to know my advice for you? Go ahead to think of a good exit plan and execute it as fast as you possibly can. You will thank me later!
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How to End a Side chick Relationship
You have seen the signs and you can clearly tell that you are tired of being a side chick. The next thing that comes to mind is how you can end the side chick relationship.
Trust me when I say it is not as easy as it sounds. It is not something you can just walk out from like a shopper changing her mind and exiting a mall. You have to be aware of the difficulty this will pose and the possible challenges also.
These are the best steps to consider when ending a side chick relationship.
5 Ways to End a Side Chick Relationship
1. Cut Him Off Completely
I totally agree that it is not as easy as it sounds, but you have got to do this. You could delete his number or even block him off completely. Also, stay away from places where you know you are likely to run into each other. If you want to end a side chick relationship, the lesser the possibility of seeing him again, the easier it is for you to succeed.
2. Go On a Vacation
You should take some time off for yourself – go on a vacation. When you do this, you give yourself something else to think about. Hence, you have your mind occupied with other things – other than him, or your recent break-up. This will help you end the side chick relationship and also meet other potential boyfriends – who will treat you better.
3. Say ‘Yes’ to Another Guy
Having another guy in your life right away is a tested and trusted way of ending a side chick relationship. However, you should not be in a hurry and be careful to make sure that you are not leaving one side chick relationship only to jump into another. If you see someone whom your heart accepts, say ‘yes’, and put the memories of the side chick relationship behind you.
4. Confront Him with Your Decision
If you consider yourself bold enough to confront him, then you probably should. However, you should be ready for the worst because he could get violent or try to seduce you into changing your decision when you inform him of your decision. This is why many ladies prefer to just walk away without informing him or seeking his permission – which you don’t!
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5. Get Off His Support Plan
Are you living in an apartment he rented for you or driving a car he bought you, you should consider returning them. If you have decided to end the side chick relationship, you should end it for good by getting off his support plan. Some men may try to blackmail you or talk you into reconsidering your decision as a result of the support plan they offered you. If you can stay without their support plan, then you should!